Secondly, you need to convey your feelings to him when he’s not meeting your expectations. He got you as a g/f and now that he has you he feels he shouldn’t have to do any work to maintain the relationship. He is who he is and you can’t change him. This is who he is, unfortunately. In addition, you’re teaching him how you wanted to be treated. Telling him "nothing is wrong" is a bad move. 

I’m sure he "cares", but he’s not married to you and probably feels he doesn’t need to do anything to maintain the relationship, which includes gifts, doing special things for you, remembering dates, etc. He’s not madly in love with you, I’m afraid. You’re his shack-up honey and he knows it, so why should he work at anything since he has you in his hip pocket? And stop holding in your feelings on it if it bothers you so much. He’s not a mind reader, although I think telling him how you feel will go in one ear and out the other. He has no appreciation for you too. That’s why "rims" come first over showing you his appreciation and affection for you. And if you want a romantic, gift giving guy you’ll have to go out and find one. Not all guys are created equal in this regard. Good luck

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 you may feel i make a fuss on a trifle but for me it’s not fuss at all. in chinese we say it’s easier to get sth. precious but harder to find your perfect love. I cherish you so i insist having a talk and I hope to let you know what i think and appreciate being frank because i do think communication is important which helps improve relationship. 

 i blamed you being selfish. i feel it could be a cultural difference from my observation but for someone i feel really close with i hope to receive loving care and solicitude, especially from you. 

first you don’t make me feel my problem is your problem and you worry for me and be eager to meet my needs even though i called for it. you are not a mind reader but i think for something i asked and which is reasonable, i deserve your attention and discussion. i hope to feel the care from you. no matter whether you are really able to help or not the "feeling" warms my heart.

second the lack of care brings the suspicion and insecurity. eventually the question popped does he really like you? because people presume love is the driver of being tender and kind. however, not much seems important about us on our mind aka nobrainer. you know everything about bike but couldn’t remember our anniversary date. you are learning everything about bike but wouldn’t spend efforts to make something special for us. you might feel i am jealous of bike somehow.

everyone has shortcomings like being a slowpoke, procrastinating, sleepy head haha, but between you and me, i do wanna feel your warmth and harbor me from trouble as my big boy.

p.s. my friend has an example, make a memo for the things you should pay attention to , easy to follow and to check if you make it or not. otherwise it’d slip the mind soon.

p.p.s i bought a pair of shoes a week ago and it’s here if you wanna pick it up.