Let it be

happy ending

大白话

我骨子里是好奇宝宝今天是葱油包包

但是 

哎不写了 

开卡车，还是手动哈哈

800／11 

 laowang said 

try your best

never give up because it is hard,

you can give up if you don’t like it

I am thinking of going to Chicago in two weeks. Crazy right?

so tired

exhausted

but slept at the desk not easy  

过程简单得让人惭愧 

下雪了~~~~~~~~~~~

从小生在北方，长大

却从来没有厌烦过雪

我觉得早上拉开blinder看到雪覆盖了一切是最激动的，

昨天和潇潇联系上了，她要来看我

我也好激动一个哈

science hill上的雪好美啊

而且雪花还在吹着呢

好幸福啊~~~~~~~~ 

not had long enough sleep for a few days

finaly I was beat today

Slept in the social science lib for an hour

then back home earlier in the afternoon

slept for 2 hour

now still not well

am I too old??

visited me just now, tears~

hagit跑来和我说self-confidence

it’s so nice of her 

今天又去买sandwich

那个老太终于忍不住说我只是teenage

17-8的样子

quote

Want to Get Rich? Be (Moderately) Happy

Some people believe that earning the most money will make them incredibly happy. What they probably don’t know is that being incredibly happy may not earn them the most money.

A new study finds that when it comes to financial success, you’re better off being a moderately happy person rather than someone who’s chronically ecstatic.

Mild Is Beautiful

Researchers at the University of Virginia, the University of Illinois in Urbana-Champaign, and Michigan State analyzed several sets of data in a paper recently published in Perspectives on Psychological Science. Their conclusion: Mildly happy people — those who rank themselves a 7 or 8 on a life-satisfaction scale of 1 to 10 — achieve more than the blissful 10s.

"The people in our study who are most successful in terms of income, education, and career are mildly happy most of the time," said Ed Diener, a psychology professor at the University of Illinois.

Numerous studies have found that happy people enjoy an advantage over malcontents: Cheerful people earn more, enjoy better health, have closer relationships, and live longer, among other benefits. But in this case, researchers wanted to explore how happy you need to be to get those perks. Do the 10s enjoy the highest well-being in all areas of life?

Emotional Rescue

The answer is no — and there may actually be a downside to scoring at the top of the scale. In a survey of more than 100,000 people in 96 countries, for example, the 8s on the 1-to-10 scale perform best in the realm of achievement.

Diener surmises that the 8s benefit from the creativity and energy of happiness, which help them stay committed in the pursuit of long-term goals and overcome obstacles along the way. But the 8s also maintain a touch of worry, stress, or internal dissatisfaction that motivates them to strive for more.

"Emotions steer our behavior, and they are there for a reason — to help us function better," says Diener.

Swiss psychologist Norbert Semmer, for example, studied people who were dissatisfied with their work, following them over a period of time. Not surprisingly, these workers were more likely to quit their jobs and find a new situation. While a few people were simply chronic complainers, many of those studied were happier in their new workplace. In other words, negative emotions played an important role in improving their circumstances.

Sociability Trumps Money

Among the studies reviewed, researchers analyzed a survey of college freshman in 1976, who were asked to rank their happiness. Twenty years later, a follow-up survey of the same people found that those who scored in the top 10 percent in well-being reported average salaries of $62,681, compared to $54,318 for the bottom 10 percent. But the next-to-happiest group was earning the most: $66,144. Analyses of long-running panel studies from Australia, Germany, and Britain produced similar results.

On the other hand, if you define success in terms of relationships, the joyful 10s are the clear winners. In a survey of current college students, the "very happy" group was more gregarious and ranked higher in self-confidence, energy, number of close friends, and time spent dating. (Those who ranked themselves merely "happy" had higher grade point averages, attended class more frequently, and were more conscientious.)

"The 10s are more sociable and positive, so people like them," says Diener, and the global survey demonstrated similar results. (I interviewed several millionaire entrepreneurs this week and they all ranked themselves 10s. Energy, confidence, and relationships may be the key. See my blog for that story.)

To Misremember Is Divine

The effusively happy tend to look at their relationships through rose-colored glasses. In a separate study of dating couples not included in this paper, Diener’s research team randomly beeped participants while they were with their partners, and asked them to write down how happy they were. Then they surveyed them at a later time about their relationships.

Some participants reported being happier in retrospect than they had felt in their moment-to-moment account. "People who misremembered in a positive direction were more likely to be together six months later," Diener says.

In other words, the 10s tend to idealize their partners and look for the best in them, leading to more enduring and upbeat relationships. Alternately, the lack of satisfaction that drives the 8s to want more in their work lives might also prompt them to be more critical of their partners, to more readily see their faults — and to be more willing to look around for something better.

A Positive Negative

But while relationships are better for the joyous, it turns out that there’s a big deficit to perpetual euphoria: Super-happy people don’t live as long as the moderately happy, according to a long-term study of gifted children. "We were shocked that the happiest people didn’t live longer," says Diener.

He speculates that the most upbeat people may not take symptoms of illness seriously, or may follow a physician’s recommendations in a halfhearted way. Or they may take foolish risks, such as the active 77-year-old Californian who went biking during a heat wave and later succumbed to heat stroke.

In addition, just as the physiological arousal associated with chronic stress takes a toll on health, so too can the sustained arousal of intense positive emotions, Diener suggests.

"People who chase continual emotional highs will usually fall short because the biological cards are stacked against their being able to sustain this emotional intensity," he writes in an upcoming book on well-being. "In the quest for continuing intense positive emotions, some individuals turn to drugs."

Pursue Happiness at Your Own Pace

The upshot? If you feel generally satisfied with your life, your work, and your relationships most of the time, think twice before buying into the self-help movement and its search for a continuous streak of "peak moments."

"Happiness, like spirituality, is partially a private pursuit, defined by individuals based on their personal values," says Diener. "Be wary when people tell you to live for the moment, to strive for an exciting life, or that you ought to be happier. Chasing super-happiness is a mistake that can lead you astray and be self-defeating."

我的周末过的太exhausted了

周五下午便去了east rock

看到几朵云然后逛了逛，那时还在depressed中，我这无欲无求者都想用买个包来慰藉下的，lol，结果还是想着我的原则，不喜欢的再便宜也不要

于是去吃了soul，然后打足球，看the house of barnarde alba

然后周六去买菜，买衣

看usher，当xiao的胆子，她开车去买菜。晚上在猪家说说话，吃吃

第二天一早就去 看车，现在想想还有点小惦记

然后一直忙活gala concert

直到晚上

今天早上起来就颇为头疼，又是阴雨的，不喜欢

看牛肉干的博，他去追逐，想想一个学建筑的，真是幸福

看着我却没那么大的兴趣，但想想自己到底要追求什么呢？

what’ s my demand?

老王说那是吃饭的家伙。lol 

再者想到了牛奶与玫瑰

我prefer牛奶，够居家吧

但同时有玫瑰有牛奶的，那不是很幸福 

今天又碰到了最蹊跷的事啊

Wilde’s "trivial comedy for serious people" is a play of mistaken identities set in English high society in the 1890s. Earnest is built upon a pun over the name "Ernest." John Worthing is "Jack" in the country and "Ernest" in the city. His friend, Algernon Moncrieff, is “Algy” in the city and “Ernest” in the country. The two young gentleman add excitement to their lives by "Bunburying"–a masquerade of Algernon’s design involving the invention of a fictitious relation. Their deceptions are soon uncovered, though, when they end up together in the country with would-be lovers Cecily and Gwendolyn, two blushing brides-to-be, both engaged to fictional men named Ernest – a name they each cherish, a name to which neither suitor has a legitimate claim. This hilarious verbal farce pits sincerity against style, and truth against illusion, to poke fun at “an age of surfaces.” With tongue firmly in cheek, Earnest reminds us to “treat all the trivial things of life very seriously, and all the serious things of life with sincere and studied triviality.”

lie!

snowing

so happily found that and walked home even it was late  

我想说下雪了

一激动就走回来了，虽然已经快9点了 

A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds, "What does love mean?"
The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined. See what you think:

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"When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn’t bend over and paint her toenails anymore.

So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That’s love."

Rebecca- age 8

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"When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different.
You just know that your name is safe in their mouth."

Billy - age 4

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"Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other."

Karl - age 5

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"Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs."

Chrissy - age 6

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"Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired."

Terri - age 4

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"Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK."

Danny - age 7

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"Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more.
My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss"

Emily - age 8

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"Love is what’s in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen."

Bobby - age 7 (Wow!)

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"If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate,"

Nikka - age 6

(we need a few million more Nikka’s on this planet)

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"Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday."

Noelle - age 7

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"Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well."

Tommy - age 6

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"During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling.

He was the only one doing that. I wasn’t scared anymore"

Cindy - age 8

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"My mommy loves me more than anybody

You don’t see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night."

Clare - age 6

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"Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken."

Elaine-age 5

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"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford."

Chris - age 7

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"Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day"

Mary Ann - age 4

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"I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones."

Lauren - age 4

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"When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you." (what an image)

Karen - age 7

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"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn’t think it’s gross."

Mark - age 6

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"You really shouldn’t say ‘I love you’ unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget."

Jessica - age 8

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And the final one — Author and lecturer Leo Buscaglia once talked about a contest he was asked to judge.

The purpose of the contest was to find the most caring child.

The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife.

Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman’s yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there.

When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said,

"Nothing, I just helped him cry"

even 郭德刚

rebound 哈哈想了半天，就想出这个题目，不要被吓着呵呵 of course没什么真正的rebound，喜欢gossip的人就不要八了 一年了，我刚才翻了翻找了下去年的，好像没有总结，也没有新年愿望。

if something is mandatory, the law says it must be done [= compulsory, obligatory; ↪ discretionary]

个人认为很难避免，至少我自己从来就做不到，哈哈，所以最好的办法是身边老是有一个理智的人，在你冲动的时候给盆凉水~~~~ 问题是就算有这么理智冷静的人，人家也没有时间天天的跟在你旁边，所以，冲动就冲动呗，以前我们宿舍常说的一句话就是：人不冲动妄少年， 嘿嘿

唉什么都不说了